Hitting the road… See you next week!

Hello, lovely readers! Bookshelf Fantasies is taking a wee break for about 10 days as I head off on a much-needed vacation!

While I’m away, my two weekly memes, Shelf Control and Thursday Quotables, are taking a rest too — but if you do posts for either one while I’m away, please feel free to share your links in the comments!

Shelf ControlShelf Control returns July 27th!

 

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Have a great couple of weeks. See you soon!

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Discussion: Is it ever unfair to write a review?

 

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Is there ever a time when it’s just not fair to review something?

Here’s what I mean:

Let’s say you’re reading a book in a particular genre. And it’s a genre you typically never read. What’s more, it’s a genre that you don’t particularly like. For whatever reason, you read the book anyway… and — big surprise — you don’t like it.

Do you write a negative review talking about how much you disliked the book? Or do you just put it down, accept that it was never meant to be, and move on?

Of course, you may be wondering, why even start the book in the first place?

Well, there could be plenty of reasons. Maybe a friend has urged you to read a favorite book… or you stumble across something at the library that catches your eye… or you see the author on a TV talk show and think she sounds interesting.

For me, I’m having this dilemma at the moment thanks to my beloved book group. (Hi guys!) Our monthly book picks cover a lot of different topics, although we do tend to veer toward historical fiction on a regular basis. That’s not all, though — we’ve also done historical non-fiction, thrillers, and contemporary drama, to name but a few.

Our current book — recommended by one of our members — is a romance/chick lit kind of book, which really, really isn’t my thing. Still, everyone else was enthusiastic, so I figured I’d give it a try. Five chapters in, I’m just not digging it, but I don’t want to sit out the discussion, so I guess I’ll do my best to finish it. And who knows, I may end up liking it.

(Doubtful, but why pre-judge?)

Okay, assuming I finish the book and still feel unimpressed, should I review it? On the one hand, it seems fair for me to say, basically:

This book did not appeal to me, and here’s why.

On the other hand, it doesn’t seem fair for me to say:

This is a terrible book, and no one should read it.

(Granted, that’s not something I’d typically say in a review, but let’s go with it for now.)

If I don’t like the plot or the characters, but the writing is decent and it seems to be successful within the usual “rules” of the genre, then who am I to say it’s not a good book? All I think I can truly say is that I read a book that didn’t work for me. And perhaps a romance fan might really and truly love it.

(Likewise, if you read a really gory scary horror book even though you almost never read horror and end up hating it, is it fair to say it’s a bad book? Or is it more fair to say that the book scared the bejeezus out of you and was icky and unpleasant, and hey, I hate reading horror, so I didn’t enjoy it at all?)

What do you do when you read a book that, objectively, you can recognize as pretty good for its type, but subjectively, you really don’t enjoy reading?

I’d love to hear some thoughts on this!

 

Update: Spring cleaning for the Book Blog Meme Directory (all done!)

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Whew! That was fun!

I mentioned on Thursday that I planned to do some housekeeping on the Book Blog Meme Directory page. I intended to go through the directory, test out each link, and update anything that needed updating. I figured I’d tackle it in small bites, maybe just trying out a handful each day until I finished.

Whoops. Nothing like having an obsessive need to finish things to move a project along!

I sat down to work on it earlier this afternoon… and here, I am, two hours later, with tired fingers but a big smile of accomplishment. I’m done!

I checked out every directory listing, and archived every one I found that was no longer current. For some, the host blog was still active, but I didn’t see any recent meme posts (as in, not for months or even years). For some, I could find the blog but couldn’t find anything related to the meme. And for others, the entire blog seemed to be gone, or there was a final blog post saying that the blog would no longer be active.

That’s blogging, I guess. Things come, things go!

Never fear: Nothing from the Book Blog Meme Directory is gone forever. I’ve saved all of the details and images, and can reinstate any of the entries if needed. If you host one of the deleted meme entries, just get in touch (my Contact page is really the best way) and let me know your updated details. If you’re not the host but happen to know some relevant information (like the meme was adopted by a different blog, switched names, etc), please let me know!

Here’s a list of the 32 (!!!) meme entries that I’ve archived as of now:

Day Name of Meme Hosted by
Monday Music Monday Total Book Geek
Monday Middle Grade Monday Jordan’s Jewels
Monday Pay Day Book Haul After the Book Hangover
Monday Rambling Monday The Realm of Books
Monday Mangaka Monday The Fujoshi Reads
Monday Monday Recommendations Bookshelves & Paperbacks
Tuesday Top Off Tuesday Smitten With Reading
Wednesday Winning Wednesdays Write Note Reviews
Wednesday Way Back Wednesday A Well Read Woman
Thursday Quote Me Thursday Daily Mayo
Thursday Third Sentence Thursday That’s What She Read
Thursday Characterize It The YA Book Butterfly
Thursday Thirsty Thursdays Lazy Book Lovers
Friday Friday Favorites Tressa’s Wishful Endings
Friday Keen Cover Friday Keepbooked
Friday Friday Favourites Book Lover’s Life
Friday Five Friday Favourites Book Badger
Friday Falling Behind on Friday Moirae (the Fates) Book Reviews
Friday Fast Five Friday Reader Noir
Friday Free Time Fridays Eat Up My Free Time
Saturday Swoon Worthy Saturday Stay Bookish
Saturday Bookish Project Happiness Keepbooked
Saturday Hot Scot Saturday Leila Reads
Saturday Do Judge a Book By Its Cover The Book Magpie
Sunday Sunday Shout-Out Write Note Reviews
Sunday Bought, Borrowed & Bagged Talk Supe
Sunday Summary Sunday The Fujoshi Reads
Weekly/Monthly Peek Into My Postbox Fire and Ice
Weekly/Monthly Weekend Reads Escape Reality Through Books & Bookaholic-ness
Weekly/Monthly Quoteable Thursdays Mo Books
Weekly/Monthly Turn Right Down School Lane Trips Down Imagination Road
Weekly/Monthly Monthly Most Wanted Kit ‘N Kabookle

 

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Don’t worry! This may look like a lot, but there are still plenty left! So if you’re looking for a fun new meme to try out, come check out the Book Blog Meme Directory page and visit any of the 40+ memes currently listed.

As always, new memes are welcome! Just send me the info via my Contact page, and I’ll be glad to add a listing to the Directory.

Happy blogging to all!

The Book Blog Meme Directory: It’s clean-up time!

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As a certain purple dinosaur used to sing:

Clean up, clean up, everybody everywhere! Clean up, clean up, everybody do your share…

The Book Blog Meme Directory has been up and running for almost two years now, and while I’ve done updates here and there, whenever someone sends me a change, I haven’t yet done a total top-to-bottom spring cleaning of the entire page.

So, I’m getting to it.

Over the next week or so, I’ll be going through the whole page and testing each link to see if (1) the link is still active and (2) the meme is still up and running. I know some may have been discontinued, may have been rebranded, or may have been picked up by a new host.

For memes that appear to be inactive, I’ll dig around and see if it’s just moved or changed somehow — but if not, those listings will be archived. If I come across any that need updating, then I’ll be sure to do that. And of course, for the ones that are still going strong, no changes needed!

Can you help? If you know for a fact that a meme has changed, moved, or been discontinued, please let me know! As always, new entries are always welcome. The easiest way for me to keep track of new memes to be added is if you send me the info via my Contact page, but feel free to reach out any way that’s convenient to provide your information.

Thank you so much for your support and encouragement!

For those who haven’t seen my earlier posts about the directory and want to know more, read on! The following information was originally posted earlier this year, and it gives an overview of what the Book Blog Meme Directory is all about.

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Do you host a meme? Do you have a favorite meme that you participate in? Do you know of a great meme I should check out? I’m always looking for new additions!

Any additions should:

So, for purposes of this Directory, let’s include any regular ongoing features that encourage bloggers to join in, participate by writing their own posts, link back from their own blogs, and visit other participants’ blogs as well.

  • Have something to do with books, book blogging, or reading.
  • Must be up and running (so please don’t ask me to add a meme that you’re planning for the future; let’s add it once it’s “live”).

Frequently asked question: Is my feature a meme? Quick test: Is this a weekly theme that you – and only you – use for your own weekly postings, specific to your own blog? Sounds like a feature. Is this something you host and invite others to participate in by posting on their own blogs and linking back to yours? Sounds like a meme.

To add a meme to the Directory, the simplest thing to do is to submit your information (whether you’re a meme host or participant) through my Contact page. I’ll confirm back to you once the Directory has been updated.

I only ask two things of folks whose memes I add:

1) Keep it up to date! If you change domains, change the details of your meme, add a new graphic, switch hosts or days of the week, etc — just let me know! I want to make sure the info in the Directory is current, and make sure that people who want to play along can find you!

2) If your meme is listed, would you be so kind as to say so on your blog? I’d really appreciate it if you’d either post my Directory button (available at the bottom of the Book Blog Meme Directory page) or post a link so your readers can find the Directory. Many thanks to you!

I hope you’ve all been finding the Book Blog Meme Directory helpful! Thank you to all who have shared information up to now. It’s great fun to hear about so many interesting, unusual, and quirky ways for book lovers to interact — let’s keep it growing!

Bloggy dilemma of the day!

I find myself in the midst of a dilemma and I’d love to hear some thoughts from other bloggers!

What do you do when you make a commitment and then can’t figure out how to keep it and maintain integrity?

Perhaps I’m overthinking this…

I write honest reviews, always. If I love a book, I say so. If I don’t, it can go a few different ways. If I was simply bored and find myself with nothing to say, I just won’t bother with a review. If I actively hated a book, chances are I’ll write about it and say why. Or, if I didn’t enjoy a book that I thought would be good, or liked the premise but not the execution, or disliked a book in a way that stayed in my mind, I’ll write about it too.

The dilemma is — what to do when a blog tour is involved?

I rarely sign up for blog tours, mostly because I don’t take well to reading and writing exactly on a fixed schedule. I participate sparingly, and only for books that really catch my eye.

My current problem is, I just finished reading my next blog tour book… and had to force myself to do it. I almost abandoned it midway several times, but because I’d committed to the tour, I kept going. The main promos for the tour list my blog and the date, and I’d made a point of requesting a giveaway copy too.

So…

I can see three main choices here:

1) Participate in the blog tour as scheduled, featuring the book cover, synopsis, and giveaway, but leaving out a review and keeping my post promotional only.

2) Do the blog tour, but include my honest thoughts, which won’t be very positive. Somehow, this seems like the worst choice — it’s a mixed message (I’m promoting a book I didn’t like?), and not very considerate of the tour host or the author.

3) Back out of the blog tour, and then either not post at all about the book or write a review that expresses my actual feelings.

I hate to break a commitment, but at the same time, I don’t want to give the impression that I liked a book or that I’m encouraging my blog readers to read a book that I didn’t enjoy.

Has this happened to you? How did you handle it?

I’d appreciate any words of advice!

Celebrating 1,000!

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With this very post… I have now published 1,000 posts on my blog!

I can hardly believe it.

Less than 3 years ago, I launched Bookshelf Fantasies with only the vaguest idea of what blogging was all about. Here I am, one thousand posts later — older for sure, smarter I can only hope, and still going strong!

I’ve had such fun figuring out how to do this thing! Along the way, I’ve met great people, had amazing conversations, and shared a love of books that unites those special people — the true bookworms — wherever in the world they may be found.

My one thousand posts, by the numbers, include:

  • 285 book reviews
  • 100 Thursday Quotables posts (my very own little meme — come join me on Thursdays!)
  • 100 Top Ten Tuesday posts (I had no idea that this week’s TTT post was my 100th!)

Just to check in on my pet obsessions:

  • Outlander has been mentioned in 131 posts (Really? That’s all? I would have guessed a lot more!)
  • Harry Potter? Appears in 60 posts.
  • I’ve mentioned The Sparrow by Mary Doria Russell in 29 posts.
  • Stephen King appears in 81 posts.

As of today, my Book Blog Meme Directory has been viewed 11,380 times! Wow, that makes me happy! I guess that means that people find it useful… and I think that’s just awesome.

1,000 posts since day one, and I’m still having so much fun! Thank you so much to all of you wonderful people who take the time to stop by, check in, say hi, and share your thoughts. Your comments and insights mean more to me than I can say, and I feel like I’ve made some amazing new friends thanks to the incredible world of book blogging.

So, here’s a quick little thank you — how does a giveaway grab you?

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I can’t give away $1,000. Sorry! But I think I can manage 1,000 pennies! And since I’m enjoying celebrating so much, I’ll do it twice. Enter here to win one of two $10 gift cards for Amazon or Book Depository:

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And one more time:

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I appreciate all of the encouragement, laughter, and support!

Onward we go… to the next 1,000 posts!

Read, skim, or skip?

About two weeks ago, I wrote a post about how following other blogs is key to building community in the blogging world, and yet it can potentially take up so much time that it’s impossible to stay on top of it all and still have any time to work on our own writing projects (not to mention little things like eating, sleeping, and saying hello to our friends and families). You can check it out here if you’d like.

Since I wrote that post (which, by the way, led to some really interesting input and discussion), I’ve been thinking more about the whole issue. I have quite a few blogs that I follow. Some are by people I feel I’ve developed a real connection with; others are blogs that I might visit occasionally or blogs that caught my eye with an especially interesting post or two. Still, the overall traffic can be overwhelming, between my WordPress feed, my Bloglovin’ feed, the daily email digests, and the Twitters links. There simply isn’t a way to read EVERY SINGLE THING, EVERY SINGLE DAY.

I’ve read comments over the past couple of years about people’s blog-reading habits. Some folks say that while they spend the most time writing book reviews, they tend to not read reviews on other people’s blogs. Some prefer discussion posts, some prefer funny pieces, some are all about the memes.

Clearly, not everything is going to be read, or read thoroughly. I’m sure we all have our own approaches to keeping up. I’ve realized that I can divide up my actions into three simple categories:

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So how does it all shake out? More or less, these are my habits:

Book reviews:

  • Is it by a blogger whose work I always enjoy? Read.
  • Is it for a book that I read recently, especially one that I liked enough to want to discuss? Read.
  • Is it for a book that I plan to read soon? Skim. (I don’t want to know too much, but I’d still like the general idea of whether you liked it or not.)
  • For a book that’s completely out of my interest zone? Skip.

Memes:

  • A meme I’m participating in? Read… usually.
  • Top Ten Tuesday posts? 90% of the time, if the topic grabs me — Read. The other 10%? No interest in the topic, so I skip.
  • Weekly reading wrap-ups (like It’s Monday. What Are You Reading or WWW Wednesdays, for example): Read.
  • Book hauls, shelf stacking, in the mailboxes: Skip. I’m just not that interested in these unless they’re folded into some other sort of post, like a reading update or a weekly recap.
  • Teasers, random book excerpts, quotes: Read. I like these little snippets, and I’ve found a few good books through these kind of posts that I maybe might have missed otherwise. Plus (shameless plug here), I host a quote meme (Thursday Quotables! Come check it out!), so clearly I like this sort of thing.

Other book stuff:

  • Cover reveals: Skip.
  • Author Q&As: If it’s someone I’m interested in — Read. Someone I’m not familiar with but who seems interesting or quirky: Skim.
  • Chit-chat or discussion posts related to reading, reading habits, etc.: Read. Usually.
  • Month in review posts: Skip. If I’ve been following a blog, then I’ve already seen all the posts for the month, so I don’t need another post summing up what I’ve already seen.
  • Giveaways: Read. Don’t we all love free books?

Bloggy stuff:

  • Technical tips and tricks, like making blog graphics or cool resources for bloggers: Read.
  • Blogging tips, like increasing traffic or considering self-hosting: Skim, to see if there are some good nuggets in there. Skip, if it’s not something I’m considering.
  • Discussion posts about being a blogger: Read, usually, unless it’s a topic I feel I’ve seen time and time again. Still, it’s always interesting to get a fresh take!

Non-bookish stuff:

  • Personal updates: Read. If you’re a book blogger and you take the time to put yourself out there and share your personal moments or challenges, I want to honor that.
  • Other non-bookish miscellany: Read or skim. I entered the blogging world specifically to chat books, and I’m not terribly interested in branching out too far. Still, if someone I talk books with also writes about other topics, chances are I’ll at least check it out to see what’s going on.

Automatic skips:

  • Anything with GIFs. Sorry. I just can’t. I know, I know, people love these. But they make my brain and eyes hurt, and I just can’t enjoy reading anything with GIFs flashing around on the page.
  • Cover reveals.
  • Posts with hard-to-read fonts, colors, or too many typos.
  • Challenges: I don’t do challenges, and reading other people’s challenge update doesn’t seem all that interesting to me.
  • Blog award posts: I seem to have 5 – 10 of these in my feeds each day, and as much as I may love the individuals, I just can’t read these any longer.
  • Rants about Goodreads, author behavior, and blogging/reviewing politics. There’s only so much time in a day, and I’d rather focus on the positive.
  • Wow, I sound like a total grouch, don’t I? I’m not putting down any of the above, really. I know people like different things, and what’s boring or a turn-off to some may be totally hilarious or thought-provoking to others.

Really, the read/skim/ skip division is the only way for me to keep my sanity and not get swamped with all the keeping up I need to do. So don’t hate me if I don’t read your meme posts or LOL over your clever graphics! I’m happy to be an enthusiastic audience for the posts that grab me… and I hope you’ll read the stuff of mine that catches your eye or strikes your fancy — and skip the stuff that bores you!

What type of posts do you always read? What do you skim? What do you skip?

Share your thoughts, please!

Following, following back, and keeping up

When I first started blogging — almost three years ago! — I really had no idea what I was getting into. I was focused only on the “me” parts: I’d write my book reviews and other content, and people would read what I wrote.

Ha! I really knew nothing about blogging, obviously.

Readers don’t magically appear. It’s all about connections. If I want people to visit my blog, I need to reach out and connect with other bloggers. It’s a back and forth — you comment on my posts, I comment on yours; I visit your blog, you stop by mine.

It’s not a quid pro quo, really, just simple networking and connection. We all want visits and views, but people have to know we exist in the first place in order to come for a visit.

Over the years, my circle of favorite blogs has grown and grown. Here’s the challenge: How do I find time to cultivate and nurture my own blog when so much online time is devoted to visiting and reading other people’s blogs?

If people follow my blog, I tend to follow back. (Side note: If you’ve followed me and I haven’t followed back, it’s probably an oversight, so let me know!)

For WordPress blogs, new posts show up in my reader, and I can opt in to receive daily or weekly email alerts. For non-WordPress blogs, I tend to subscribe by email for ones that I really don’t want to miss, or else I’ll follow via Bloglovin’ or Twitter. (Twitter is least effective for me, as I’m not on all that much and I miss a lot).

At this point, with all the blogs I follow, it’s an enormous task to try to read everything every day. I get about 20 – 25 daily emails about new posts. My Bloglovin’ feed is huge, and so is my WordPress reader feed. There just isn’t enough time in a day for me to read all the new posts and still have time for reading books and writing my own blog posts.

I’ve been trying to prune a bit lately, so I’m trying to make sure I’m not following the same blogs on WordPress and on Bloglovin’, for starters. For WordPress blogs that I interact with less frequently, I’m starting to turn off the email alerts. I can still read new posts in my WordPress reader, but that way, the daily list of emails with blog updates will hopefully be a bit more manageable. Plus, there are some blogs that feel like priorities to me — people who share similar tastes with me, or write pieces that I find particularly engaging, or those who I’ve developed a virtual friendship and rapport with — and those are the ones I want to see in my email inbox each day. When I get email alerts for all the blogs, it’s hard to separate out the ones that I really want to read from the ones that I might read if there’s time.

Meanwhile, I’m still thinking about the whole following back thing. If someone is nice enough to follow me, I really appreciate it, and I feel like following back is the right thing to do. And yet, if I see that their blog is focused on a genre that I never read and that our book tastes have no common ground, I’m less likely to actually read their posts.

What’s your approach to following? Do you automatically follow back when someone new follows you? And do you actually read your blog feeds every day? How do you manage to keep up?

I’d love to hear how others handle the challenge of keeping up with other bloggers. Please share your thoughts!

 

The Book Blog Meme Directory: An update

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In July 2013, I launched a new page here at Bookshelf Fantasies: the Book Blog Meme Directory. The purpose of the Directory is to collect information and links for all sorts of bookish memes, providing a resource for book bloggers looking for new and different ways to connect with other bloggers, share some bookish love, and have fun!

We’re up to almost 70 memes as of now, and the list keeps growing!

I realized this week, while adding a few new memes, that I haven’t actually written an update post since launching the Directory.

So here I am, once again asking for your help:

Do you host a meme? Do you have a favorite meme that you participate in? Do you know of a great meme I should check out? I’m always looking for new additions!

Any additions should:

So, for purposes of this Directory, let’s include any regular ongoing features that encourage bloggers to join in, participate by writing their own posts, link back from their own blogs, and visit other participants’ blogs as well.

  • Have something to do with books, book blogging, or reading.
  • Must be up and running (so please don’t ask me to add a meme that you’re planning for the future; let’s add it once it’s “live”).

Frequently asked question: Is my feature a meme? Quick test: Is this a weekly theme that you – and only you – use for your own weekly postings, specific to your own blog? Sounds like a feature. Is this something you host and invite others to participate in by posting on their own blogs and linking back to yours? Sounds like a meme.

To add a meme to the Directory, the simplest thing to do is to submit your information (whether you’re a meme host or participant) through my Contact page. I’ll confirm back to you once the Directory has been updated.

I only ask two things of folks whose memes I add:

1) Keep it up to date! If you change domains, change the details of your meme, add a new graphic, switch hosts or days of the week, etc — just let me know! I want to make sure the info in the Directory is current, and make sure that people who want to play along can find you!

2) If your meme is listed, would you be so kind as to say so on your blog? I’d really appreciate it if you’d either post my Directory button (available at the bottom of the Book Blog Meme Directory page) or post a link so your readers can find the Directory. Many thanks to you!

Final note: One area of the Directory that I haven’t fully pursued yet is a challenges section. By request, I’ve added listings for reading challenges, but haven’t gone all out to find new ones to add. If you do want me to add a reading challenge that you’re hosting, just let me know.

I hope you’ve all been finding the Book Blog Meme Directory helpful! Thank you to all who have shared information up to now. It’s great fun to hear about so many interesting, unusual, and quirky ways for book lovers to interact — let’s keep it growing!

 

New! Improved???

Hey, all — check it out! I’m trying out a new theme and color scheme for Bookshelf Fantasies. After a year and half with my old layout, I was itching for something new to look at. What do you think?

I’ll still be fiddling and making adjustments for a bit… so let me know if you have any suggestions, please.

I hope you like it!